“Courage is the power to let go of the familiar.”
Take the courage to step into the unknown, they say. Being uncomfortable is exactly what you need to remember what it is like to grow, they say. But, it’s damn hard to find the courage when you’re simply full of uncertainty and fear.
Susan Jefferes explains five truths about fear in her book “Feel the fear and do it anyway”:
- The fear will never go away as long as you continue to grow as an individual.
- The only way to get rid of the fear of doing something is to go out and do it.
- The only way to feel better about yourself is to go out and do it.
- Not only are you going to experience fear whenever you’re on unfamiliar territory, but so is everyone else.
- Pushing through fear is less frightening than living with the underlying fear that comes from a feeling of helplessness.
Point four and five really resonated with us. Knowing that we are not alone in experiencing fear reminds us just how common fear really is. We can’t escape it. We need to accept it. We need to embrace it. We need to learn from it.
When we are experiencing fear, it’s important to adjust our internal narrative so that we can find courage needed to progress. Negative phrases like “I can’t do it” or “I don’t know what to do” are best avoided. Replace these with empowering language like “I know I can do this”, “What a brilliant learning opportunity this is” or “I’m looking forward to the challenge”.
Give it a try. It’s truly powerful.
And just remember – to feel fear is actually a sign that you are about to embark on a growth journey. It might be uncomfortable, but who knows where that growth may take you!